I can be a “do nothing bitch” if I feel like it…
“I have this one term for the kind of woman my mother raised me to not be, and I call it a do nothing bitch. A DNB. The kind of chick that just tries to be pretty and be taken care of by someone else. That’s why I think it’s hilarious if my body looks masculine or something like that.
Listen, just because my body was developed for a purpose other than fucking millionaires doesn’t mean it’s masculine. I think it’s femininely badass as fuck because there’s not a single muscle on my body that isn’t for a purpose, because I’m not a do nothing bitch. It’s not very eloquently said but it’s to the point and maybe that’s just what I am. I’m not that eloquent but I’m to the point.”
This video came across my feed (yet again), and I cringed (yet again).
I so wanted to like Ronda Rousey.
She has done her fair share for women’s rights. (I think…) She advocates healthy body image and training for performance. (I think…)
Yet… I just can’t view her as inspirational.
Ronda Rousey’s comments and statements have to be taken in context of what they are – coming from a fighter (not a journalist, a writer, a policy maker). Some level of cockiness is to be expected in contact sports (although some take it too far): trash talk is a thing, and you better act as if you believe you are the bestest shit since Muhammad Ali.
But I never quite got who these women are that she is trashing in her video.
If every single muscle in YOUR body does not have a purpose (because you are not a freaking professional athlete), does that make you a DNB? And doesn’t every single muscle in your body have a purpose kind of by definition? What if you do not work because you are disabled? What if you have been lying in bed for weeks, “doing nothing”, only occasionally getting up to go to the fridge because you are severely depressed? What if you are a professional model, and your job IS actually to “look pretty”?
You can’t promote a healthy body image AND criticize other women (as Rousey has done on a number of occasions from discussing bodies of fellow competitors to expressing desire to beat the crap out of Kim Kardashian).
Moving from one narrow box (a woman should be “barefoot and pregnant”) to another narrow box (a woman should train for a purpose) is not exactly liberating. I’m all for standing up to body shaming, yet doing so by shaming another group is only shifting focus, not solving the issue. And if you consciously choose to “fuck millionnaires” as your primary occupation, that is your prerogative.
Dear fellow humans, please remember – you can do whatever the hell you want.